Attractiveness: Man vs Woman

Men and women have different ways of thinking and different styles in deciding.

Many factors can affect the way men and women think and process their thoughts. People also view men and women differently. Men are strong, hard and the one who protects women. Women are soft, sensitive and the one who needs protection. Men also tend to be very objective and looks at the bigger picture rather than women who tend to be subjective or emotion- driven, and looks at things individually.

Thus, a person’s perception and judgment are affected by these gender roles. It is said that gender is a big factor in the way a person view and give judgment.

Many people use sex roles or gender as their basis in assimilating and categorizing information (Skitka & Maslach, 1990). People have the tendency to pass out judgment based on a person’s gender, developing into a stereotype on what the genders are limited and restricted to only do. Huma (2010) said that a lot of studies are focused on the sex roles and revealed that there was really a significant difference in terms of judgment between male and female.

Gender has been assumed to be a basic category that strongly influences perceptions of people of others. Bartol and Butterfield (1976) investigate double standards. Their conclusion is that the sex of the manager affects the evaluation of different leadership styles.


Another interesting outcome is that different standards are used in evaluating the performance of male and female leaders. Double standards in terms of gender exist in the present day society wherein there are certain things that men can do and get away with that women would never be able to live down. Because of our existing notions of what a specific gender should be, these affect how we view certain people when they behave in a way that contradicts our what we already know.

The existence of double standards in the society is an example of this gender stereotyping. Disparity shows when men can show off their bodies and people will call it attractive, whereas when women show off even just a little skin and people would pass them off as indecent and too revealing.

Specific gender roles demand people to act based on the roles they are asked to fulfill and falling short of it dictates a failure to conform. As it is human nature for males and females to act a specific way depending on their gender, the impression one forms out of them may vary greatly depending on the gender one possesses.

Beauty In You

We have lots of definitions of beauty. It can pertain to art, events, ideas, people and other things that we consider beautiful. Also, This beauty is defined differently, from cultural aspect (standards of different cultures in defining beauty), philosophical view and other perspective. However, in this blog we will discuss the psychological perspective of the beauty.

Psychologically speaking, beauty has been defined, according to Tylka & Iannantuono (2016), as the positive evaluation or conceptualization of looks, appearances, body sizes/shapes and personalities. (Tylka & Iannantuono, 2016).

Basing on this definition, let’s ask, how do we really measure the beauty of a person?

Though the definition is simple, the construct or concept “beauty” is still broad. It encompasses different construct that can still be measured (or there are others terms under the term “beauty”). The beauty that we are talking about here is the beauty that an individual has (it can be in the form of physical or mental). Example the constructs that I am talking about are body image/ self-body image, attractiveness, inner characteristics or other traits/ personalities.

However, from these constructs that help to measure the term beauty, the construct body image is the construct that I will define and explain today because of its definition is the most applicable (related) to measure beauty.

So let’s start with the definition of body image.  According to APA, body image is personal standards of optimal appearance for various body features: idealized features as opposed to actual attributes of appearance. In addition, According to Lightstone (2001), body image has been defined as follows: body image involves our perception, imagination, emotions, and physical sensations of and about our bodies. Body image is the personal relationship you have with your body. It is the overall evaluation of the body or in other words it is how you feel others perceive you, what you believe about your physical appearance, how you feel about your body, and how you feel in your body.

Since this a subjective view of the body, meaning that it changes over time or it’s not static. It is sensitive to changes in mood, environment, and physical experience. In simple terms, it includes your perceptions, beliefs, thoughts, and feelings about your physical appearance. It also includes how you feel in your body.

Moreover, let’s adapt Grogan’s (1999) conclusion from several studies. He concluded that body image is influenced by many factors (family, friends, teacher, peer, environment and society) and as a person gets older the influences on body image change and may become stronger or weaker, thus creating modification in body image over the life-span.

So what these definitions want to point out or pointing out? To put it briefly, the perception of beauty or self-image is a subjective evaluation which will differ from one person to another. There are a lot of factors that influence the perception of beauty that will change over time. Like traits and personalities, one’s beauty or one’s perception of beauty is unique. Although it is a subjective view a person, culture, society and group of people also have their own standard of beauty.  We still have to consider the fact that every race, culture, or country has its own concept of beauty.  


To end this,

According to the module of Counselling and Clinical Sercvice of University of Alberta:

“Body image dissatisfaction is very common—90% of women and 50% of men are dissatisfied with the way they look. People with negative body image have a greater likelihood of developing an eating disorder and are more likely to suffer from feelings of depression, isolation, low self-esteem and obsessions with weight loss.” 


So for you, how do you define your beauty?